The Generation of the Baby Boomers!!

||Disclaimer= this is by far no shade to men or women that have children,, i have alot of close friends that have had children or thought about having children but resorted in abortion. By all means do you,, but this is for the people who are reckless in having children,, not making wise decisions and having them for all the wrong reasons. Men who hate their baby mamas because they don't even know them or because they were a jumpoff and now your stuck! This bud's for you...

Why is it so hard to find a man that does not have any kids who is over the age of 18?? I say 18 because I meet men who are 25 with old ass kids. WTH is wrong with people puttin a condom on it? Don't yall know kids at a young age is not the business? Now Im fully aware of the saying `shit happens` and I know a lot of young parents didn't plan their children,, but I also know a lot of young people who take precautions,, whether birth control or condoms or no sex at all. When I see a lot of men having babies [I say men because I'm not on a hunt for a woman,,but their just as responsible],, it alerts me there is a lot of unprotected sex going around,,which means there is also a high risk chance of STD's because a baby isn't the only thing you can catch,, that's just what God chose to give u. Im thinking how did our generation get smacked with so many young parents. It almost floors me at how many men I have met in my lifetime that have either had kids or got somebody pregnant. Now Im not perfect,, I have had unprotected sex and God has spared me of never giving me a baby or STD's so Im aware of things just coming unexpectedly,, now those are individual problems,, but on a general inference sex isn't brand new and neither is having babies,, so how come everybody seems to have them now? Im damn sho that 50 or even 30 years ago kids our age were not having babies at alarming rates as people today,, especially the black community.
There is a part of me that appreciates a strong man out there doing what he has to do and taking care of his kids,, but I never knew that I would be asking every man I meet under the age of 30 or 25 even how many kids they have and how many they have on the way and if they do have kids,, how many baby mamas they have and receiving answers other than none,, accompanied with the normal get- to- know you questions such as what do you do for a living. It seems almost as if men are having their biological clocks ticking at 15 and it becomes a requirement as a coming of age tactic men go through to have children before or while they are in their 20's; or should I really say before they become the men they need to be.
Its become the norm to say, I have a baby mama and I absolutely hate that phrase. I hate hearing it, I honestly would be more happy to hear my ex-wife because to be honest with you,, I look at  if I'm good enough to have your baby,, Im good enough to be your wife and if we don't see each other in that way we don't need to be having children. Shit call me old fashioned but that's what I believe. I just can't ever be proud of just being someone's baby mama and it makes me sad when I see women who are ok with that title. Are you serious?? It's time we start as a generation evaluating the importance of sex and how we use it and be more safe. Yes babies are blessings,, but their not joyful when you can't take care of them the proper way and you are not ready. People are staring to sport their kids like rims on a truck,, these are human beings not ornaments!! Having random babies by random women is not something to be proud of because you are not setting a sound example for them.
So,, Im wondering is it even possible to find a man without a baby in 2010?? Please let me know the odds because I still have the endangered dream of having children when Im married.

The Backup Plan

I know in the past I have had my posts about my fucked up relationships [womp!] and then for some reason,, Im happy again with a new dude and then all of a sudden Im off niggas yada yadda yaddda!! Yea I know Im a lost cause,, but unfortunately my heart is always in a tug-of-war because I can never make up my damn mind!! Its time I be real with you and also myself in realizing that I am `The Backup Plan Girl`,,

[Backup Plan Girl = a woman who always has a guy, who is a plan B for that guy in case this nigga fucks up or vice versa. She is never 100% single even when she is single and cries about how alone she is. Her eyes and options are always open,, thus always having a `Backup Plan` for a relationship she is in]

And in realizing this,, I am setting myself up for failure.I have always been this type of girl and at first,, [and for the fact I date in Los Angeles] seems like a great idea because the young men here are very mickey and are totally clueless of what they want,, why should I wait for them? =^/ This form of thinking has resulted in me being just as trifling as them at times because I have cheated,, rather emotionally or physically,, i have not always been a good girl because I always had that one guy waiting in the wings. Surprisingly enough this has sparked guys to hunt after me harder looking at me as a challenge,, saying that they can take me away from so-and-so. At the same time it has harmed me,, men have told me they can't get serious with me because I'm a heart breaker [go fucking figure]. 

I always thought that if I put my all into every relationship I had the fact I had a backup guy,, wouldn't be neccessary because this guy would do right by me. HA!! I realized this wasn't working because these guys would have a backup plan for my ass because either they were just that dog ass nigga or because they felt the same way I did,,she gona hurt me anyway. The reason I have always been this way is because in the past I have never had the guy I should have had,, the guy to treat me right,, so I looked at the guy on the side as a crutch or a bandaide for when this other guy broke my heart. It's been a losing process because I then have to get a backup for my backup because he later breaks my heart.

Moral of the story is if you have a backup 9 times out of 10 your going to have to use it and your just defeating yourself. Instead of finding that whole person you look for halves,, resulting in trying to making a whole person by putting two different [or in other cases more] people in your life to make the ultimate person you want. If you're a `Backup Guy or Girl` its time to take a break instead of having meaningless relationships start trying to make whole ones with one person instead of searching for a replacement. Think about it,, jobs search for a replacement after they fire you,, if they had a backup plan for every employee they might as well hire yall both! 

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