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26.8.09

Single Is The New Relationship!!


I am single and remarkably its a great feeling!! I never thought I would be so secure in being alone. A few post ago I elaborated on why I was single and how Im trying to cope with it. But now it feels great and I should have had this feeling a long time ago. I should have not been so worried about being with someone or trying to find the love of my life for the past 6 years!! Im only 21 and not 41 my love life isnt over it may just be beginning. Ive been through alot though to make me start feeling a little bitter, but in some case I do still have hope. But, the single feeling has turned from being bitter to being relieved, Im feel free like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders and im able to just live. Yes there are still people trying to obtain my attention as always, i learned that men will and can always be obtainable, they aint going anywhere. So when I want them I can have them but right now I rather be alone. It feels so great to just wake up and not have to plan my day according in trying to accomodate some other persons plans with mine, or having to reply to a text, aim, or gtalk message if I don't want to, i dont check back with anyone, or feel bad if I dont want to come over. Wat The Eff for!! Im not anyones girlfriend and that is what finally what sank in!! I dont have to make anyone a priority who makes me an option. Being single is great because you make your own rules.
I was one of those girls who always did whatever it took to make sure "my man" was straight when all I was doing was waiting in line to hopefully get picked!! Some I did some I didnt but what it assured that Im putting myself out there in hopes of being someones everything to men who deserved nothing. Being with someone who really cares about you is a great feeling but I realized that being with someone you lowkey lose apart of you, your freedom to live. Ball and chain analogy is true even when you are fully in love. Im honestly not ready to give this new found freedom up. I embraced the best parts of being single and Im using it to my advantage till I feel I have found the right guy I want to give it up for. People dont be afraid of being single, its probably the best time of your life, you figure out what your really want and who you really are. Im preparing myself for my ultimate partner, Im cleansing my soul by spending quality time with me and being able to understand why those other relationships didn't work, If you are never alone you can never fully appreciate being with someone. So if you are alone, live it, learn it, love it.

13 comments:

Ms. Minnie said...

So you did post something! Yayyy but this post was great I am single also and I'm still on the road towards enjoying my freedom I've been single for so long I forgot that I can still have fun I don't have to be all sad because my girls cancel on me sometimes to be with their men. I forgot that I can make my own rules when it comes to the dating scene hopefully I'll learn to embrace my freedom better you'll get a post out of it lol

Cecelia said...

lol this post made me jealous. makes me wanna go break up with my "boyfriend"



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S Jones said...

THIS POST REALLY HELPED ME...MY B/F JUST BROKE UP
WELL ASKED ME FOR "SPACE" AND I CRIED THE FIRST THREE DAYS LIKE IT WAS THE END OF THE WORLD BUT MAYBE IT WAS NECESSARY. SOMETIMES WE ALL NEED TO HIT THE TIME OUT BUTTON, LEARN TO LOVE OURSELVES FIRST, AND THEN PROCEED TO DEVOTING OURSELVES TO SOMEONE WHO REALLY DESERVES US. THANX FOR HELPING ME SEE THAT BEING SINGLE ISN'T THE END OF THE WORLD.

.domo. said...

it really is a great feeling!!! once i learned to accept that i was single at the time and cope with it i was good. i eralized it wasnt the end of the world and i wont die single,ive got hella years ahead of me :] so im glad you feel great!!! :]

SOmEtHiN lOvElY said...

true..being single is bangin (ALL THE SINGLE LADIES..NOW PUT UR HANDS UP!)LOL

Kiaana08 said...

Well, I'm happy that you are looking at your relationship status from this angle. I think there are positives and negatives about both being single and being in a relationship. When I was single, I pretty much had the same perspective on it. Being single is great cuz it allows you to focus on doing you and only you. And typically when you have your mind set on doing you, the RIGHT one comes along. My only recommendation is keep yourself surrounded by great friends and family to chill and have fun with to avoid the feeling of loneliness. That was always my problem when I was single, but from looking at the pics you won't have that problem. So continue enjoying being single girlie.

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Mista Jaycee said...

Greetings from the LB/CPT
Enjoy your single life. I've been enjoying my married life and the only advice I will offer other than come and follow my blog is to live it to the fullest. Stay open to new experiences and people. Try ish that is out of your comfort zone. For me it was classical music and museums but hey I'm having fun.

LIKLE P said...

Thanks I thought I was looser this has made me realise I am not alone

Freckles said...

Being single isn't so bad and at this point in my life I embrace it. I have seen friends, have babies, get married, cheat, be cheated on, fuss/fight, resent and divorced over the last 10 years, not possibly all in that order. lol. I believe that once comfortable in your single life you will be able to be equipped to be in a good relationship because you will be content with yourself and not need that relationship to validate you.

So enjoy mama and great post...

Peace, Words and Blessings - Freckles (www.nvfreckles.blogspot.com)

SaM said...

yes it is the single life makes so much sense